For Marriages

Codependence intensive

Healing the Heart of a Marriage

When marriages are suffering it’s easy to look for a quick fix or a “how to” approach. But in reality, marriages are about two people with their own issues, trauma and needs. Systems are developed in a marriage that cause problems to be repeated over and over again. based on what’s happening in each partner’s heart. Unhealthy coping mechanisms can sever any intimate connection, causing separation instead of closeness. That’s why our intensive focuses on individual healing to begin to weave and understand each partners heart, and learn how to give and receive the needs in the marriage through a place of healing. Above all, we place the need for God’s love in each partner as the highest pursuit.

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We Specialize in Addiction & Codependence Cycles

Addiction come in many forms, and it can injure the heart of marriage as it creates imbalance, chaos and lack of connection. One spouse attempting to fix or the change the other will never work. What does work is placing the marriage on the surgery table of God’s healing strategies, with each person participating in their own journey of self awareness. Once a spouse understands themselves, they can learn to understand the story, needs and responses of the other.

The intensive includes both individual and marriage counseling and interactive classes and projects. You can expect full-time work during this time, and it should be the main focus. We do not recommend this program online for an intensive, but we can offer it through a marriage counseling package (weekly sessions).

Before you come into an intensive, we do an assessment to make sure this environment is safe and conducive to your needs. If we do not think it is a fit we will refer to you other programs that might be more appropriate.

We are Christian counselors and coaches, not licensed therapists, and this is is important to understand. While we have been trained in trauma and understand the connection of the body, soul and spirit, we are orientated towards healing with the resources of Jesus. Our goal is to help you move towards freedom where you will experience the removal of guilt, fear and shame; and in its place you can be inherently seen, valued and loved as you are. Freedom also allows you to discover who you were meant to be, and rises you up into your God-given design.We have helped over a thousand families in our twenty years of working with addiction and codependence.

Help for Relationships

God created us for connection to Him to give us the necessary resources to have relationships with each other. Oftentimes because of the trauma and pain of life, relationships lose their primary purpose. Instead of connection, love and support, relationships can become destructive.

Our ministry is recognized internationally for codependence recovery through the publication of several books including The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance. But there are additional resources only available to those attending an intensive.

Untangling unhealthy relationships is not simply ending them. Instead, it’s understanding the needs that drive that relational system. Healing a relationship involves two people, but through the intervention of one person, a new pathway can be established.

We will spend time learning relational principles through materials that are relevant to your situation. But above all, we will use the resource of Jesus – His power, presence and ability – to be the anchor that fills our soul, making our relationship with any human being an outworking of what He has done in us.
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Types of Intensives

Private 5-Day Retreat Intensive in Temecula, CA

You will spend five full days of counseling, prayer and healing projects. We will cover significant portions of your pain story and set you up for healing and transformation. This intensive also provides four weeks of one on one sessions to apply it to everyday life.

5-Day Group Intensive in Temecula, CA.

This is a women only group intensive with typically 3-4 participants. We will do interactive classes, healing projects and process times. Even though it’s a group, everyone will develop a customized plan and trauma map.

Individual Online Intensive

We can do an intensive for you online instead of coming onsite to our retreat location. You will spend five full days in counseling, followed by an additional four weeks of follow-up weekly sessions. We recommend a complete detachment from work and other responsibilties.